1. 1. A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.
  2. 2. A member of the Religious Society of Friends; a Quaker.
  1. 1. Add (someone) to a list of contacts associated with a social networking website.
“I am friended by 29 people who I have not friended back”
  1. 2. Befriend (someone).


How do you define who is a friend in your life?

We talk about “real friends” a lot. Normally, a real friend is someone who will be there for you and with you irrespective of the situation. Real friends are with you in your toughest moments and in the best. But mostly, real friends know you in and out. Maybe even better than you know yourself at times.

Then we have friends, people you went to school with. You’re probably still Facebook friends and like each others stuff but don’t really talk anymore.

Work mates, your relationship can turn from work mates to friends easily. You share your life outside of the office with these individuals and maybe even spend time outside of the office together as well.


Now having worked in the media industry and still fully involved with the entertainment industry, I get to meet a lot of people. I have known many DJ’s and Artists for years and naturally we’re friends on Facebook too. But to date, they don’t really know me and nor do I know them. We just know each other for what we do and whom we’re associated with.

In the same scene of parties etc, I get to meet the ravers. And we’ll jam till Silly O’ Clock and you get home and wake up to a friend request; you accept it because you had an awesome time with them. And the next time you see them, it’s on the dance floor again at some next party. Now you have each other’s numbers and only text to meet… at parties!

Then we have acquaintances. People we’re introduced to. Have a friendly hello and small talk and it ends there. The next time you see them, it’s probably the same – hello and small talk.

So we can easily say there are categories of friendship and it’s easy to fall under the title of a “friend”.

I have many people that call me a friend when in reality they don’t even know the beginning of my life and I don’t know a thing about them as well!

Without realizing it, we’re subconsciously categorizing the people in our lives because that’s just the way it is. Yet so many people get so offended when you don’t simply say this is a friend.

“Oh she’s a work mate”

“He’s a party friend”

“We went to high school together”

But who do you call a friend though? And what gives you the privilege of being called so as well?

It has got to be the intimacy of the friendship and the information shared between the two. The knowledge exchanged and the feelings shown. When you let your guard down for a person and let them into your life without any reservations.

It’s something to think about.

Who are your friends?