Day 18 – #NaBloPoMo

How do you handle things that are beyond your control?

How do you just allow things to happen and just stand there and watch it all go wrong?

With work, family, friends, lover? How?

I watched Easy A today and even though it’s a teen-chiq-flick, I couldn’t help but translate the whole meaning of the movie into my current life situation.

I posted this when I was obsessed with Glee earlier this year. And had my own interpretation of it.

And just like Glee, Easy A made me realize something that I am still waiting for.

This may actually sound a little personal and may not have a point to it in the end (or maybe it will).

The one thing that Olive wanted in the end was to honestly be asked out on a date. With no intentions and no ulterior motive behind it.

And I’m sure I speak for 75% of women out there, that that’s all we ever want.

Tired of being HIT ON, online and never in person. Tired of liking someone and never having them like you back. Or you both like each other but something like distance doesn’t allow you to be together. Just plain TIRED.

But as all of this goes on, we cannot forget how amazing it is to be single too.

I read a lot of quotes by The Single Woman and what she has to say is so empowering. And you realize that everything happens, happens for the good. I’ll quote some of my favorites for you:

~ Don’t let anyone or anything control how you feel about yourself. It’s called “self” esteem for a reason.

~ I finally realized that cutting people from my life does not mean I hate them, it simply means I respect me

~ Reminder: Don’t PLAY hard to get. BE hard to get. 🙂

~ A woman who creates a full, happy life on her own is a lot more inviting than one who looks to a man to create it for her.

~ If you haven’t found love, it’s because there are other things you’re meant to find first!

At the end of it all, it’s not meant to be about you falling in love with someone else. It’s about falling in love with you.

I’ve been whining about getting a new phone and pretty much everyone around me knows about it too… Last week my boss actually said “why don’t you get married and he’ll buy you a phone”. Not only did that shock me but made me realize how independent I am. I cater for myself. And there’s nothing wrong with that. I’ll save up and be patient and buy a new phone. Simple. You don’t need “someone else” to sort your stuff out for you. As nice as it may seem, it’s just not me.

Back to being tired.

So as annoying, and frustrating and irritating and whatever other “ing” you can think of that defines “I’VE HAD ENOUGH” that you may be feeling. Let it go. It’ll come when it’s supposed to. 100% chance is that it’s not the right time, or you’re not ready for it or God just has a better plan lined up for you.

There’s nothing wrong with still dreaming about it and thinking about it and hoping and wishing for it. But don’t let it be the core of you. Don’t let it snatch that pretty smile off your face. Don’t let it be the underlining issue of all your issues.

You do not need a man or woman to define you or to complete you.

You need someone to compliment you, as a person, to compliment your lifestyle, your work. Your everything (don’t use the word trophy or I may just slap you).

It’s something like what Kanye may have said about Kim, “I don’t mind marrying her because she has her own money“. She aint no gold digger, she’s got her own to show.

Remember… Individuality. Self worth. Self respect. YOU first.


I’m taking part in the National Blog Posting Month! I’ve committed to posting something everyday till the 30th of November! Hope you enjoy the absolute random reads and would love feedback too! Feel free to drop a comment at the bottom.

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